Curse Or Challenge : My Husband Is Gay
Some truths
are universal! my husband is gay, the unpleasant revelation that sometimes come in
many women's’ life smashing their goals of love, children and the ecstasy of a
pure martial bond. These facts are not taboo in Pakistan anymore as we are
living with them and these topics are rising every day. The housewives are
quieted in obscure along with their voices, aspirations, goals and glee celebrating their marital lives in an isolation.
I'm the least bothered individual when it comes to people's sexuality. I am not here to bash gays or judge them, people's sexuality are their own affairs, whatever the ethical standing is, does not affect me.Gay men
are a powerful reality in our society; whether in closed windows, behind
closets or out of it, they are a part of our society. It's
certainly worthless to mark sexuality as a medical dilemma if it can be treated
or being gay is fine or not. The significant issue I want to raise here is the utter
pressure from the society, family and friends that become a cultural crime when
one's sexual orientation harms and wrecks youthful lives of the girls they marry
or are bound to marry.
Being gay is not a psychological, environmental or mysterious intricacy. It can't be
treated through acknowledgements, therapies or home remedies. If any gay man
ever summons the courage to tell their parents about his sexual orientation;
parents not only deny the revelation they also cut all the ties. How many times
the parents of gay men accept the reality with open-heartedly
sadly not a single one!! It is essentially the progenitors who need to
recognize the fact, not push their sons to get wedded to girls. Instead of
refuting the existence, taking him to medicate considering it's a sickness or
to consider a bengali baba as your boy is possessed by an evil spirit or to
moulvi’s for jhar phoonk, or beating him, usually emotional blackmailing that
they will not be able to show their faces to society, family or relatives if
their son refuses a proposal and not marry.
I've talked with gay boys, married gay men and
discussed their convalescence and grief. Most of them state that they are
attacked, and pressurized and pushed by their families to consider a marriage.
As we don’t have the courage to face our parents, the whole truth is that being
a disgrace to the family if you are born gay. One queer shared his qualms;
'I
want to be me! The flying bird but I'm bounded by blood bonds, society norms
and pathetic mindsets.'
Most of the parents are steadily in a state of rejection
and keep convincing the gay men for marriages. They don't even make an attempt
to grasp why their boy is opposing a marriage proposal. If your boy is
frequently refusing marriage proposals and not ready to settle down despite
every attempt, don’t push him for whatever purpose it is. If you inspected gay
inclinations, you have no liberty to push him to marry a naive girl just to
maintain your cute little boy is straight. My question for gay parents is that
how can you willingly play with a girls world, why to take a chance, assuming
that if he is wedded to a girl, have babies and under a bogus straight marital relationship?Why
make the girl an African hog? Ironically she is not a research laboratory for
your sons’ sexuality.
These days marrying a girl, raising a family and
restating their gay lives appears so common with some men and their parents who
absolutely refuse to detect any wrongdoing in it. The alternatives left for
females is either divorce or carry a shady life under one roof with their gay husbands.
Instead of happy ever and after like flick, they live forever with blasphemy
like what is my offense or why am I cursed?
So ur saying tht parents should accept their gay children, evn though its a sin in Muslim religion??
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